I am so tired of having my sexual orientation being written off as a phase, an experiment, or a cover-up for lesbianism.
I am so tired of my relationship with my girlfriend being deemed illegitimate or doomed to fail (even though we’ve dated almost a year) because I dated a man before her, and she is my first girlfriend. Apparently there is an unwritten quota of how many women I must date and or sleep with before I can be truly accepted as someone who likes women, because I used to date men and am still attracted to both men and women.
Most of all, I am SO FUCKING TIRED of hearing this shit from other members of the LGBT community!!!! A gay guy I work with asked if me dating a girl was a phase. When I said no, I’m in love with her and want to marry her, he told me it won’t last. because she’s my first, and I’m probably just going through a phase.
This is not okay. The LGBT community is one that I would expect to receive the most support from. But honestly the bi phobia and bi-erasure within the community makes me sometimes just lie and say I’m a lesbian because it’s easier. That’s right: it’s easier for me to come out as gay than bi. Even to my family. When I told them, they were confused and said “I think you’re just gay.” WHY CAN’T ANYONE WRAP THEIR HEADS AROUND BISEXUALITY?! People fall in love with inanimate objects for Christ’s sake. Yet attraction to multiple genders is just too crazy to fathom.
I EXIST, GOD DAMMIT!!!
Im fucking done now. Rant over. Peace.